REALTOR© Being Stuck & Overwhelmed?

Wade Webb on July 13, 2022

realtor stuck overwhelmedPersonally, or professionally as a REALTOR© are you feeling stuck & overwhelmed?

Feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life. Everyone occasionally feels overwhelmed by expectations, responsibilities, and a lack of time. The past few months have been a huge test on us as Realtors© and being able to handle everything coming at us with the change in the market conditions and our clients uncertainty with what they want to do now. However, dwelling on feelings of overwhelm and letting them knock you off course can be detrimental to both your mental health and your productivity. If you find yourself saying “I’m overwhelmed” or feeling stuck with more than you can handle, here are some things to keep in mind to help you get through it.

1. These Emotions Are Natural. In the scope of the Earth’s history, human emotions are a fairly recent development. It’s no wonder we haven’t learned to peacefully coexist with them and end up fighting them on a daily basis. It can often feel like these feelings should be easy to overcome, but feeling overwhelmed is a natural response to having too many things going on at once. It’s your mind’s way of telling you that you need to slow down if you want to live a healthier life. Recognizing that overwhelm is your body’s way of trying to help you through difficult times can help shift the relationship you have with this emotion. Once you recognize it for what it is and invite it in without fighting it, you can begin to work with it to improve your feelings in a healthy way.

2. It’s a Breakdown of Thoughts, Not of Life. Our minds are powerful things, and feeling overwhelmed can feel like the end of life as we know it. In the book, As a Man Thinketh, James Allen says: “As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.” We have the power to manage our thoughts, and as a result, manage who we are and who we will grow to be. This involves making our mental and physical health a high priority. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, your life isn’t falling apart—your thoughts are. Take a minute to find and clean out all your self-deprecating, negative emotions and thoughts. As you do this, you will find yourself feeling refreshed and invigorated with renewed energy to take on the world.

3. Things Can Turn Around Quickly. Maybe you’re saying “I’m feeling overwhelmed” as you face a project at work and don’t think you have the energy or time to finish it. You start letting yourself play out every negative scenario resulting from a failed project. Sitting on the couch and dwelling on these thoughts isn’t going to make anything better. In fact, it usually makes things worse. Things seem to fall in place as you chip away at a project and come to realize it wasn’t as bad as you thought. A good friend of mine always say to me “Things work out most of the time, just not all the time. It’s all good.”

4. You’ve Felt This Way Before. Think about the last time you felt overwhelmed. How did you overcome it? In the end, was it really as bad as you thought? If you don’t learn from past experiences, you’ll find yourself suffering from the same problems over and over. Successful people are the ones who understand that every experience, good or bad, is valuable. Go to a quiet place, and take as long as you need to remember previous times in your life you felt this way and how you overcame it.

5. Your Problems May Not Be as Bad as You Think. The best way to find out how good you actually have it is to take a break from worrying about your own life and do something kind for someone in a worse spot than you. Volunteering at a homeless shelter or orphanage can help put your problems into perspective, and that tight deadline may not seem so overwhelming. Furthermore, acts of kindness can produce oxytocin, which can help you feel better all around. This is vital when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

6. It’s Easy to Keep Doing Nothing. Your situation changes quickly when you start doing something, but it’s always easier to continue doing nothing. The mind generally doesn’t react well to change and will do its best to help you keep doing what you’ve been doing. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, that may mean it tries to make you do nothing. Those who overcome their struggles quickly are the ones who never give up, even when they feel that all is lost. At times, it might feel like there is nothing you can do, but that is exactly when you need to do something. How will you ever know for sure there was nothing you could do if you didn’t try? At the very least, you will find personal confidence in knowing that you did everything you could.

7. Gratitude Can Help Immensely. In a world of people obsessed with putting their best self forward, it’s easy to feel like everyone has more than you. Get that thought out of your head, and remember what you do have. Often, the things you have right now are things you were worried about having in the past. Don’t let an insatiable desire for more blind you from seeing and appreciating everything you have right now. Gratitude can combat feelings of overwhelm by bringing you into the present, which will combat worries of the future. Once you’re in the now, you can focus on what you need to do to get past feeling overwhelmed and overcoming the many things coming at you at once. If you don’t know what to do you’re overwhelmed, take some deep breaths and try to start a gratitude journal: How a Gratitude Journal and Positive Affirmations Can Change Your Life

8. People Want You to Succeed. Remember there are people in your life who want you succeed. Your life touches so many others, and there are people out there rooting for you. These people are part of your support system, and you can turn to them each time you’re feeling overwhelmed. You can call them for a quick pep talk, invite them out for coffee if you need a break, or even ask them for help with your overwhelming list of things to do. The bottom line, feeling overwhelmed is a natural part of life that comes from trying to always take on more than we should. This feeling is difficult to avoid in today’s world, but there are things you can do to reduce those feelings once they do arise. Remember the reminders above whenever you’re not sure how to move forward, and you’ll soon find yourself on the other side.

Strength and courage,
Wade

Evolution Of the AgentsBoost Real Estate Coaching Site

kelowna on March 4, 2015

AgentsBoost real estate coachingIn 1992 I noticed an ad in the newspaper that read “Students Earn $10,000 in a Summer” and I thought to myself “this is for me!”

So I blew the dust off my only sport coat in my closet and headed downtown for the big interview and the dream to make ten grand this summer.

So I interviewed and got the job but little did I know they pretty much hired everyone and anyone that applied.

I then was in a boot camp for five straight days memorizing a 2 and a half hour long sales script to sell families educational materials.

The boot camp week had ended, the sales presentation was memorized and we were put in groups of 5 and jumped into one vehicle and headed on the road to all the small farm towns in the middle of Canada for three whole months.

On a mission from God against illiteracy and to provide a set of encyclopedia’s to every man, women and child for the amazing price of $1,999.99, we would drive around neighborhoods and get a feel and say drop me off here at 3pm and could not return to our pick up spot until 10 pm.

So I would knock on 250 to 350 doors a night on my quest to help families that believed in their children’s education.

Little did I know at the time I was on this mission that this thing called “the internet” would be coming very, very soon.

So for three straight months, motel to motel and town to town I proceeded to sell set after set and make top salesman for the summer and was one of only 2 salesman that did not quit and buy my bus ticket home before the summer was over.

In fact I loved the sales part of the summer so much that I remember calling my father one night from a pay phone in a farm town and saying to my dad that I have found what I love and want to get my real estate license and forget about completing my final year in music and education and not become a high school band teacher. Dead silence on the other end of the phone as my dad being in sales all his life could not believe I was wanting to come over to the “dark side” and become a salesmen.

I proceeded to get my real estate license and partner with my father for the first 8 years of my 14 year sales career and we had the time of our lives. It was the one thing in all the years that my father and I really had a connection in and did effortlessly together and would never regret our amazing time together in real estate.

The Birth of AgentsBoost

So that was how I ended up in real estate and now the story that led me to AgentsBoost.com and coaching real estate agents and broker owner managers.

All my life I have had the passion and desire to help, teach, coach and mentor people like most of us I believe do. I loved real estate and I am good at real estate and love to impact and improve agents, companies and managers personally and professionally every day.

I discovered a mentor and friend Jon Cheplak online and called him one day for some coaching on recruitment and retention. From just one mastermind session with Jon the idea of AgentsBoost had evolved. I began to share all the latest, greatest knowledge I had been given and learned for more than two decades and share it for free to real estate agents, managers and brokers on AgentsBoost!

My hope was to use the content for a recruiting and retention tool with the local agents in my hometown in hopes they saw value in all this great, free content and they would be attracted to our brokerage. My goal also included that our own agents would become closer and more connected to our brokerage with this added value on AgentsBoost.

The website audience initially was only the 200 agents in my own brokerage and about 300 other key agents in the local market that I thought would be amazing additions to our brokerage as well.

Then AgentsBoost began to take on a life of its own and began to go viral and the followers and audience just got bigger and bigger.

We launched in 2013 with 17,729 views and 11,196 unique visitors. Then in 2014 we had 76,573 views and 47,625 unique visitors and this past January 2015 was already had our biggest month ever with 10,100 views and 6093 unique visitors.

I am humbled and honored to see the people enjoying the content and the viral impact we have been able to have. Thank you to all our visitors as without your support we could have never accomplished this. AgentsBoost is truly a team effort we have all contributed to.

Last year we had the privilege of publishing my first book “The Lazy Realtor” which is available on Amazon and currently #2 for Real Estate Coaching and in the top 50 books for real estate on Amazon.

My coaching business has grown quicker than I ever imagined with agents, teams and broker/owner managers wanting to take their personal and professional lives to another level and allowing me to share what it means to have work life balance and create a recession proof relational business vs the one off transactional business like so many agents continue to have.

I am so grateful for the business we have built and so excited for what we have in store for AgentsBoost in 2015 and planning to launch a second book sometime this year and take our coaching, speaking and training business to the next level.

With gratitude,

Wade

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